Community Guidelines & Membership Agreement
HotWife Community Rules
Welcome to Hotwife Palooza and HotWife Community. A private, members-only, lifestyle social clubs. If you want a space to build real connections on more than one level, you'll fit in here.
Our vision is a culture built on empowered interaction. Entry is quality over quantity — and quality isn't physique centric. It's about mindset and attitude. Our leadership works to be inclusive ambassadors to the Ethical Non-Monogamy community, and we want this to be a sexy, safe space whether you've been doing this for a decade or you're a couple or single taking your steps into Hotwifing.
No group is a perfect match for everyone. We put our values out in the open so you can decide whether we're right for you while we're deciding the same about you. If this sounds like your speed, come join us.
Know Before You Go
- Consent is everything. Ask before touching. No means no. No answer means no. Only yes means yes, and that goes for watching too.
- Privacy is protected by law. No cameras, no recordings, no sharing anyone's identity. Violations carry $100,000 in damages per intrusion, per person.
- We follow the house rules. HWC parties happen at multiple locations. Every host club's rules apply on top of ours.
- Safer sex is the rule. Condoms are free at many of our parties. We encourage members to bring their own. Unprotected intercourse is prohibited except between fluid-bonded partners.
- 21+ with government ID that matches your profile. Every party, every time.
- Zero tolerance for drugs and prostitution.
This is a convenience summary. The full agreement below is what you're agreeing to and what governs.
Profile Requirements
Please read: profiles will not be approved without the mandatory sections complete.
A live person reviews your profile. Nothing here is automatic. Read the requirements before you start.
Member Photo (mandatory)
Current, unobstructed face photo. We need to match it to your ID and to you in person at check-in. These photos are visible only to administrators.
Real Names, First & Last (mandatory)
We have to be able to identify every participant, and names must match your ID. ID is required at your first party. This is a liability requirement. Your real name is visible to administrators only.
Screen Name
This is what other members see. Use the same screen name you use on other lifestyle sites so people can find you.
Main Profile Photos
- No nudity on your main profile pictures. Use passkey albums for that.
- Blurred, revealing, and sexy are all fine.
- Minimum 3–4 different pictures. Do not upload the same photo several times.
"About" and "Seeking" Sections (mandatory)
These cannot be empty or a handful of words. Give us 30–40 words each, minimum. Take a few minutes and write real sentences about yourself.
Our approval criteria has nothing to do with dick size, muscle mass, ethnicity, height, or age. What we care about is whether you can navigate lifestyle spaces well. Write something that shows us you can.
Who Can Attend
HWC parties are open to HWC members and to members of our partner clubs, including Club Joi, BIA Vida, and AFC.
Couples
If you already hold a membership with one of our partner clubs, transfer your profile over to HWC. You do not need to purchase a second premium membership to attend as a couple.
Single Gentlemen
Single males need an active HWC membership. A partner club membership does not carry over for single male entry, and a couples profile at a partner group does not work as a single male credential. No exceptions.
Every single gentleman who attends is vetted and pre-approved, and must hold Premium membership with us. We hold strict couple-to-single-male ratios at every single-male-friendly party.
Membership is a priledge not a right and can be revoked at any time for inappropriate behavior.
Husbands and boyfriends who have couples profiles with affiliated clubs cannot use their couples profile to attend HWC events as a solo. Members in good standing may submit a personal request to allow their partner to attend without them on a hall pass. Prior to consideration we must have a phone conversation with the non-attending partner, and this must happen prior to the event date. Understand, we are under no obligation to grant your request. Consideration is on a case by case bases.
Party Conduct
HotWife Community is an adult lifestyle group where on-premise play is allowed. These apply at every party we run, wherever we run it.
- Ladies are highly respected here. Stalking or harassing single ladies is never permitted, and repeat behavior can suspend a couple's membership temporarily or permanently.
- Ask before you touch. Man or woman, get consent first.
- No means no. If someone tells you no, respect it and move on.
- Couples arrive and leave together.
- Keep it down in the play areas. If you're in one and not playing, whisper or say nothing at all.
- Don't crowd people who are playing. If you're unsure whether you're welcome, ask.
- Respect the space. Clean up after yourself. If you have an accident, handle it or grab staff to help.
- Respect the neighborhood. Keep your voice down outside.
- No rude conduct toward guests or staff. Everyone's dignity counts.
- Zero tolerance for drugs or prostitution.
- No cameras, phone cameras, or recording devices. Not anywhere, not at any point.
- Overly intoxicated guests will be denied entry or asked to leave.
- Don't promote competing parties or services at HWC events or across the HWC network, paid or free. Anything advertised on the same weekend as an HWC party triggers an immediate account review.
Your Privacy at Our Parties
HWC does not release guest information to other guests and does not sell guest information. Want to reach someone you met? Ask them directly at the party.
Host Club Rules
HWC produces parties at several locations. When we're a guest in someone else's house, we play by their rules — and so do you.
HotWife Community respects and enforces the rules and guidelines of every host club we work with, including Club Joi. By attending an HWC party you agree to be held to the host club's standards of conduct, liability, and privacy in addition to ours. These include, but are not limited to:
- Recording bans and privacy protections, including liquidated damages provisions
- Dress code and entry standards
- Play area rules and who may enter them
- Safer sex requirements
- Alcohol and BYOB policy
- Weapons policy
- Parking, valet, and neighborhood conduct
- Any additional house rules posted or communicated at check-in
Where a host club's rule is stricter than ours, the stricter rule applies. Where an HWC rule is stricter, ours applies.
Getting removed by a host club is grounds for review or revocation of your HWC membership. Getting removed from a HWC event at another Club will likely get you banned by that club as well, and visa versa.
Alcohol
HWC does not sell alcoholic beverages. Most of our host clubs are BYOB — bring a reasonable amount for your own consumption and check it with staff on arrival. Label your containers. Policies vary by location, so confirm on the party listing before you pack a cooler.
Dress Code
Dress code is set by the host club and may be stricter at some locations. When in doubt, dress up. Check the party listing for theme details.
Gentlemen
Upscale club attire. A collared shirt at minimum. Nice pants or jeans with no rips or tears. Sneakers pass at most spots, but dress shoes look better.
- No shorts
- No t-shirts
- No sandals
- No sports attire
- No tank tops
- No baseball caps
- No ripped or torn clothing
Show up out of dress code and refuse to fix it and you won't be admitted. No refund.
The simplest advice we can give you: shower before the party, dress sharp, and go easy on the cologne.
Ladies
We run fun, sexy themes and we'd love you to play along. Nothing ripped, torn, or trashy. Most host clubs have a locker room, so bring options and change as often as you like. Cover up when you're entering or leaving the building.
Privacy & Photos
Your personal information stays with management. We use it to check you in, and that's it. Your ID needs to match your profile.
Anyone who misrepresents themselves or enters without membership faces financial penalties and civil action. Breaking these terms, or using your HWC membership for professional or work-related benefit, is punishable by law at $100,000 per intrusion, per person. This is a legally binding agreement.
No Pictures
What happens at an HWC party stays there. No pictures, no recordings, no exceptions. Any images taken at one of our parties become the sole property of HWC and will never be released publicly. Take unauthorized photos and your device gets confiscated, you get removed, and your membership is terminated.
On the rare occasion a professional photographer is on site for promotional work, you'll be told in advance and asked to sign a release. This is never part of a normal party.
Photos and video published by HWC will not contain the unedited likeness of any member without written consent.
Events where there is a photobooth or photo-opt location present is the exception. These photos are for your personal enjoyment, they will not be shared or published by HWC without your consent.
Site Etiquette
Membership includes the HWC website and newsfeed. Use it or ignore it. Meeting at a party is always the safer play anyway, and if the chemistry isn't there in person, your night isn't ruined.
Off Limits
However innocent it looks, using the HWC site or newsfeed to invite members anywhere other than an HWC party is not permitted. If you receive a private invitation like this, report it to management.
Keeping Profiles Real
We reject, deactivate, and delete profiles regularly. Yours needs to stay real.
- Real names are visible to management only. Other members see your screen name.
- Member card photo is required. Your first uploaded photo becomes it, and only staff can see it.
- Photos must be of the members uploading them. No missing photos, no fakes, no cartoons, nothing edited past the point of being useful. Stock photos are prohibited outright — they're deceptive and they put members at risk. Memes are fine on the newsfeed, not in your profile.
- Video follows the same rules as photos. Size and length are limited.
Uploading anything outside these rules leads to deactivation, profile removal, or a permanent ban, and you won't be able to attend parties until it's resolved. Not sure about something? Email info@hotwifecommunity.com and we'll take a look.
The Membership Agreement
These rules resemble those at most lifestyle clubs, but they are not identical. Read them carefully. Courtesy and respect are required at all times.
The following is the full, legally binding agreement. The text below governs; section titles are for navigation only.
1 — Private Membership
HotWife Community is a private, members-only club. Your completing this application, participating in a membership interview, submitting a profile, and agreeing to all the terms herein are express preconditions to you being considered for membership and admittance to one or more HWC parties. Further, you understand and irrevocably agree that HWC management has the unrestricted right, in its sole and exclusive discretion, to grant or refuse, suspend and/or revoke your membership without notice or explanation.
2 — Age & ID
You must be 21 or over to be considered for membership and to register for any party. Only government issued IDs are accepted. You must have your ID with you anytime you attend an HWC party.
3 — Membership Fees
Membership fees are subject to change. Only monthly subscriptions recur until canceled by the member. In the unfortunate event that a couple dissolves during their membership period, that membership shall terminate automatically and any remaining balance is forfeited. Should one or both members wish to join with a new partner, each new couple shall reapply and pay a new membership fee. Multiple memberships are allowed, but only one partner per party.
4 — Donations & Refunds
HWC gratefully accepts donations from its members. At various times HWC may host parties for which minimum donations are requested to defray operating, administrative, and similar expenses. Minimum donations will be specified when passes to that party are offered. HWC has a No Refund policy. Credit may be given for passes. Tables and VIP are non-refundable. No credit is given with less than 72 hours notice.
5 — Privacy & Recordings
A major part of the respect we require is respect for the privacy of all HWC members, employees, volunteers, and the members and staff of any host club. So that we may offer the most uninhibited environment possible, it is crucial that all members understand that what happens at an HWC party stays at that party. You may not disclose, in whole or in part, the identities of any other member of HWC or of a host club without HWC's and said member's prior written authorization. No cameras or other recording devices of any kind are allowed at any HWC party without management's prior written authorization. Telephones with cameras attached may not be used inside the party space. Any use of a camera or other recording device inside an HWC party, or outside it in a manner that HWC or its members believe may compromise the privacy of its members, is grounds for immediate and permanent membership cancellation and expulsion. Further, you agree that any and all recordings you make, in whole or in part, on or about the premises of any HWC party are "works made for hire" for the benefit of HWC and shall be the sole and exclusive property of HWC for all purposes including but not limited to copyright. To the extent any such work shall not be deemed the property of HWC, you hereby transfer without further consideration all rights therein to HWC.
6 — Liquidated Damages
You agree that your possession and/or dissemination of any such materials shall cause immediate and irreparable harm and may be enjoined, without the necessity of posting a bond, by any court of competent jurisdiction. You irrevocably agree that the actual damages from any such violation of the rights of privacy of HWC and/or its members are difficult or impossible to accurately quantify. You agree that, in addition to the injunctive relief above, the appropriate amount of liquidated damages for any unauthorized recording, disclosure of guest identities, or any other invasion of privacy as to HWC and/or any member shall be $100,000 per intrusion, which reflects a reasonable estimate of probable compensatory damages for loss of privacy, including humiliation, emotional distress, necessity to pay legal fees, loss of employment or advancement, and other injuries. This amount shall be awarded to each guest or HWC employee who is involved in any such recording or disclosure. You also agree that should any legal process be required to enjoin your possession, dissemination or disclosure, the transfer of rights, or the award of such liquidated damages, you shall be liable, in addition to the above, for any and all of HWC's attorney's fees and costs of suit.
7 — No Illegal Drugs; No Prostitution; BYOB
NO ILLEGAL DRUGS ALLOWED. NO PROSTITUTION. Anyone caught ingesting any illegal substance, under the influence of any illegal substance, or offering any illegal substance to another guest shall have their membership immediately and permanently revoked. HWC reserves the right to report the use and/or trafficking of illegal substances to law enforcement. HWC does not sell alcoholic beverages. Where the host club permits it, members may bring a reasonable amount of the beverages of their choice for their own consumption only while on the premises. Please mark your containers so that you may check them with staff. Overindulgence is severely discouraged, and anyone found to be under the influence will be asked to leave, have their membership suspended for not less than three months, or in the case of repeated violations, have their membership revoked. You agree that you are solely responsible for complying with all traffic and other laws regarding the possession and consumption of alcohol and other intoxicating substances, and agree to hold HWC harmless for your behavior at the party and after you leave.
8 — Consent
No aggressive, predatory, or otherwise offensive behavior will be tolerated. You must ask permission and receive affirmative consent before touching any other member. No means NO. No response also means NO. Yes, and only yes, means YES. This includes watching other members in the play areas — watching for more than a few moments can become uncomfortable, and you must seek consent before doing so. Stalking or harassment of single ladies is never permitted and, if excessive, can result in temporary or permanent suspension of a couple's membership. Members are strongly encouraged to advise management regarding others who appear to be violating these rules. Members who are reported will be given a warning. If the behavior continues, their membership may be suspended or revoked at HWC's sole and exclusive discretion.
9 — Play Areas & Arrivals
Couples who arrive at an HWC party together must leave together. When a couple enters a play area together, they leave together. If a single member enters a play area with a couple, that single member leaves with that couple. Single male access to play areas is limited to vetted, pre-approved Premium members at parties designated single-male friendly, and is further subject to the rules of the host club, which may be stricter. If you are in a play area and not playing, whisper or say nothing. Do not invade the personal space of people who are playing; if there is any doubt, ask.
10 — Set Your Limits; No Fighting
Set your own rules and limits for playing with others before you arrive. Having a clear understanding of what you and your partner are comfortable with keeps misunderstandings and hurt feelings to a minimum. Communication is how you control jealousy. The one you love is going home with you. Respect your relationship and the relationships of your fellow members. No arguing or fighting of any kind is permitted at an HWC party or its immediate surrounds, including parking lots and adjoining streets. Any such behavior results in immediate expulsion and, if repeated, permanent membership revocation.
11 — Safer Sex
Evidence exists that anal, vaginal, and oral sex may result in the transmission of HIV and other STDs. However, the proper use of a condom has been shown to reduce exposure to these infections. In order to reduce the spread of these diseases, unprotected anal and vaginal intercourse is prohibited at HWC parties except as between fluid bonded couples. Unprotected oral intercourse is discouraged. Upon entry to any HWC party you may receive, free of charge: condoms, safer sex materials, and a health and referral card. You understand that there are significant risks in engaging in unprotected sexual activity, with or without the use of a latex barrier. Any member caught engaging in unprotected anal or vaginal sex with any other member, other than their fluid bonded partner, shall have their membership suspended for three months. HWC does not provide medical services or advice. You should consult with your doctor, or you may wish to contact the toll-free HIV/AIDS Hotline (800-342-AIDS) or the Sexually Transmitted Disease Hotline (800-758-0880). You hereby agree that you are aware of the risks of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, and expressly and in perpetuity agree to assume any and all risks of contracting any sexually transmitted disease while attending any HWC party. You also agree to indemnify and hold HWC harmless, in perpetuity, against any and all such claims asserted now or in the future.
12 — No Weapons; Law Enforcement
No weapons of any kind are permitted at an HWC party. If you are a licensed law enforcement officer, have a concealed carry permit, and are obligated to carry your service weapon, you must advise management upon arrival. You hereby represent and warrant that, if you are a police officer, government investigator, or agent of any kind, you are obtaining your membership and/or party registration in your private, individual capacity and will respect the rights of privacy of other HWC members. You further represent and warrant and irrevocably agree that should the foregoing representation be false, and/or you are seeking membership or party entry for the purpose of investigating any other HWC member or management, you have been expressly advised that HWC does not consent to your entry under such circumstances and that your entry without a valid search warrant is hereby and permanently refused. You irrevocably concede that any such unauthorized entry is an intentional and unlawful search in violation of the Fourth Amendment to the United States Constitution, a violation of all HWC members' rights of privacy under the Fourth, Fifth, and Fourteenth Amendments as well as an unlawful and intentional violation of Article 1, §§ 1 and 13 of the California Constitution, that you have actual knowledge that such conduct is a violation of clearly established federal and state law in this jurisdiction, and that you hereby waive any defense of total and/or qualified immunity. You further acknowledge that HWC management and members each assert their right to counsel under the Sixth Amendment and refuse to answer any questions until they have conferred with counsel.
13 — Press
You hereby represent that, if you are a member of the press — including but not limited to television, radio, magazine, newspaper, or internet site — you are obtaining your membership and/or party registration solely in your private, individual capacity and will respect the rights of privacy of other HWC members. You hereby irrevocably agree that your entry for any other purpose shall be deemed fraudulent, that you intentionally made any and all statements that led to your admission knowing them to be fraudulent, that you did so in order to obtain admission to a private party to which you otherwise would have been refused entry, and that you did so with the intent to violate the privacy rights of HWC and its members in willful violation of state and federal law. You further acknowledge and agree that you, and any employer for which you are working, are bound by the recording restrictions, copyright transfer, liquidated damages, and injunctive remedy provisions above.
14 — Host Clubs & Third Party Spaces
HWC parties are held at a variety of spaces, some owned and operated by third parties. By registering for and attending any HWC party you agree to abide by the rules, guidelines, and membership agreements of the host club in addition to this agreement, and you acknowledge that those rules may be stricter than ours. Where a host club rule is stricter, it controls your access to that space. Where an HWC rule is stricter, it controls your standing as an HWC member. Removal or ejection by a host club is grounds for review, suspension, or revocation of your HWC membership. You further agree that the indemnification, privacy, recording, and liability provisions of this agreement extend to and benefit each host club, its owners, management, staff, agents, and premises.
15 — Indemnification
You agree to indemnify and hold the club, its management, staff, agents, host clubs, and venues harmless of any claim or damages, including any legal fees in relation to the same, made by yourself or a third party, for any loss, damage, injury, or harm suffered by them or their property howsoever caused.
16 — General Terms
The Parties shall at their own cost and expense execute and deliver such further documents and instruments and shall take such other actions as may be reasonably required to evidence or carry out the intent and purposes of this Agreement. This Agreement, and any dispute arising from the relationship between the Parties to this Agreement, shall be governed by California law, excluding any laws that direct the application of another jurisdiction's laws. Venue and jurisdiction to resolve any dispute related hereto shall lie exclusively in the Superior Court of California, and each Party hereby waives any challenge thereto based on jurisdiction, venue, and/or forum non-convenience. In any such litigation, the prevailing party shall be entitled, in addition to such other relief as may be granted, to reasonable attorneys' fees in connection with such litigation or in a separate action brought for that purpose, whether or not the matter is concluded by trial. If a court of competent jurisdiction holds any provision of this Agreement to be illegal, unenforceable, or invalid in whole or in part for any reason, the validity and enforceability of the remaining provisions, or portions of them, will not be affected unless an essential purpose of this Agreement would be defeated by the loss of the illegal, unenforceable, or invalid provision. Each Party and/or its counsel have participated fully in the review and revision of this Agreement. Therefore, no rule of contract interpretation for or against the drafting party shall be applicable in construing the meaning of this Agreement or any portion thereof. No waiver of a breach, failure of any condition, or any right or remedy contained in or granted by the provisions of this Agreement shall be effective unless it is in writing and signed by the Party waiving the breach, failure, right, or remedy. No waiver of any breach, failure, right, or remedy shall be deemed a waiver of any other breach, failure, right, or remedy, whether or not similar, nor shall any waiver constitute a continuing waiver unless the writing so specifies. All rights and obligations created under or pursuant to this Agreement shall survive the execution of this Agreement and the releases contained herein. This Agreement and the releases contained herein shall bind and inure to the benefit of the principals, agents, representatives, successors, and assigns of the parties. This Agreement may be supplemented, amended, or modified only by the mutual agreement of the Parties. No supplement, amendment, or modification shall be binding unless it is in writing and signed by the Party to be charged. This Agreement constitutes the final, complete, and exclusive statement of the terms of the Agreement between the Parties pertaining to the subject matter of this Agreement and supersedes all prior and contemporaneous understandings or agreements of the Parties. No Party has been induced to enter into this Agreement by, nor is any Party relying on, any representation or warranty outside those expressly set forth in this Agreement.
Management reserves the right to refuse, suspend, or revoke membership to anyone for any reason without notice or explanation.
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